This is me busting your excuses not to change your life

It’s the second of January and a lot of people are returning to their jobs today, and so am I.

A lot of the status updates on Facebook this morning were a bit glum, as people headed back to jobs they did not like.  Which makes my heart hurty, as I head to a job I can’t wait to get back to – well, just as soon as I’ve had this coffee, right?

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I felt compelled to write this status update:

If you’re unhappily returning to a job you don’t like this morning, it’s time to create a job you love and share your true gifts with the world. There are a million ways to make this possible for you. No more excuses!

Now, dear one, if your head is filling with excuses anyway as you read this, I’m here to bust them.  I know what they are because I made those excuses for ten years.

TEN years.

So, I know these excuses well and I also know what bunk they are.  Let’s bust them, shall we?

1) I need the money

Doing what you love can pay money, too – in fact, it frequently pays better than the job you are doing now, because you’ll be getting paid for something you are really good at, instead of something you’re only doing because you think you have to.

Plus, you can get creative with this stuff, yeah?  Grab my Creative Money eCourse now for some ideas on how it’s done.

2) But, but but but – my mortgage/rent

I have not met one, ONE, artist who decided to go pro and lost their house as a result, and out of all the entrepreneurs I know only two ever had this happen and they totally survived to tell the tale.

Things may get interesting for a while, but losing your house is very unlikely to be on the cards if you are prepared to do the work and learn the things you need to to make a living doing what you love.

I guess they exist, of course, but the chances are greater that your house will be just fine.  Unless of course you decide you don’t need a house to be happy, which may well happen!

3) But I have no experience, nobody will give me a job

Uh-huh.  Get out there and do the thing you really want to be doing.  Get the experience.  Do it free for a while if you have to.  When I needed teaching experience, I asked my old college lecturers to let me come and teach for free, I volunteered to teach people with learning disabilities and found a local community group to work with.  Within a very short time I was getting paid offers.  Now, I turn down most of the offers I get to teach as I’m too busy with other things.

Also, you can go self employed or start your own business and create your own job.  I highly recommend this!

4) But I might lose everything

Yes, you might.  If by ‘everything’ you mean stuff.  You might lose all your stuff.

I have lost all my stuff once by accident (when my family moved to the UK, my loser stepfather managed to get all our possessions seized.  I mean ALL – we had a few suitcases of clothes, the rest vanished without trace – the only stuff I was upset about was letters and photographs,  I can’t even remember what else was in that shipping container) and once by design (when I left my husband, I pretty much left everything I owned and the house I loved, and my job, and started over.   Within no time at all I had plenty more stuff, job, home…. you can get new stuff).

If by everything you mean people, I’m going to let you in on a little something here.  You don’t ‘have’ people.  We are all just passing through, darling heart.  Just passing through.

5) But, but, but…. my children

Don’t you dare.  Seriously.  Don’t you frikkin’ DARE use those precious, unformed little lives as your excuse.  I will come round and kick your butt personally.

Children need a lot of things, I get that, but what they need most of all is to be loved and to see you happy and living your dreams.

Think about it.  Why are you getting up to go to a job you hate even though you hate it?  Is it because you saw your Mum and Dad do the same for years and years?  Thought it might be.

Don’t do that to your kids.  Break the pattern.  Show them another way.

6) OK, I’m just really scared it won’t work out

…and the only way to make that fear go away is to stop acting on it and change your life, already!

7) Maybe next year/after our holiday/when the kids leave home…..

Waiting for the perfect time is going to be a long wait, dear Creative Being.

Parts of your big dream may need to wait until the timing is better, but that doesn’t mean you can’t start now.  I spent years in part-time jobs but still making and exhibiting (and selling) art, teaching and planning events before I did it full time.  This meant I had the experience and resources to do it when the time was right for me.

Make yourself a promise to do all the little actions which will add up to you being ready when it’s time to go full-time on your dream.  That’s what weekends and evenings are for (ditch the telly and deal with a less than clean house, yeah?!).

8) I get all this, but I’m still making these excuses no matter how hard I try.  I guess I’m just not cracked up to live my dreams.

Don’t beat yourself up about feeling unsure, it’s perfectly fine.

I worked towards my BCD (Big Creative Dream) whilst making these excuses the whole time …. and sometimes they still crop up.  Just because you have doubts and fears doesn’t mean you can’t be moving forward anyway.

Newsflash:  anyone who ever lived and extraordinary life had all these excuses in their heads, too.  They don’t have to stop you.

Just keep moving forward in the direction of your splendid dream.

No more waiting, dearest Creative Being, the world really needs your gifts.

Do you have other excuses?  Have you busted your own excuses in the past?  Please share in the comments section!

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This is me busting your excuses not to change your life — 6 Comments

  1. I hear you! I always find when one remains true to their heart, the universe will find ways to provide. If it feels like its not – then we aren’t looking in the right places or understanding the signs. Today I must admit I am having a bit of a low. I had a dream last night travelling a road which was blocked by a fallen tree. My farmer boss was busy clearing it, but I turned around to go the other way (instead of helping) only to find the other end had just had a tree fallen too……Moral of my story that night is patience. I am impatient to move forward, although sometimes all we have to do is be at the right place at the right time. I am exactly where I want to be in life right now, but I know life moves on…..im just not sure which direction it will take (or I want to take) yet?! My work for right now is to just create. Through my art the answers shall come…….

  2. Some great points here in this article Jani.

    I would like to just point out, when you undertake any new venture for the 1st time, creative or otherwise you don’t need to give up the day job right away. In fact it is usually best to start off your creative ‘business’ part time and gradually reduce hours of your day job if possible, or transition to a 50% day job vs 50% creative venture.

    A lot of people view working as a creative artist with an “all or nothing” or “rags or riches” approach. Perhaps the stereotypes of the “filthy rich Hollywood actor vs the starving artist” perpetuate the these myths, but the truth is that there are many self employed creatives in between these 2 extremes are living a comfortable living like most other regular people with day jobs, but the difference is that they find their work more fulfilling.

    The most important thing if you work a job you find fulfilling is to at least keep your hand in with your ‘hobby’ or talent, and make a start on your sideline business and devise plans to ‘escape’ the day job. It’s sad but I know a couple of people that used to be close friends from uni 10 years ago that got excellent reviews for their fine art exhibitions, but quit painting all together within a couple of years of graduating because it was simply more convenient for them to just have a regular job. The sad thing is that they no longer paint, not even for a hobby. If they still did make artwork then there is always the possibility something could come from it in future, but if you quit indefinitely then you are essentially throwing away your passions and special talents and swapping them for the mundane, you are essentially shortchanging yourself.

    I learned from this observation that for most artists, the most dangerous move you can make is to ‘play it safe’. By this im not saying be reckless. I think Jani’s advice is good in that you take calculated risks. Having a good business coach who has specialist knowledge in your specialist field will also exponentially increase your likelihood of success.

    Thanks for this article Jani, & Best wishes to everyone here who is working at fulfilling their creative endeavors for 2014!

  3. i loved this! i was nodding my head and laughing at the times and can relate to the leaving everything behind(material things that is and husband:) and starting anew as a much more creative being…took all you wrote to heart!