Confession time…. celebrating my perfect imperfection!

When you mentor and teach, there’s this feeling that you should be perfect – or at least quite close to perfect.

Thing is, I was thinking about this the other day, thinking about how put off I can be by somebody who seems to just ‘have it all together’.  

I guess it just doesn’t seem all that genuine.

One of my favourite teachers, Clare Campbell, says that if you meet a teacher who knows it all, run a mile.  

I think the fact that I’m a little rough around the edges is a strength.  Many people have actually said this!  At first I was not sure how to take these remarks, but now I see it as a compliment.

People who work with me on realising their creative dreams are happy that I’m a real person, because it shows them that they (real people) can also achieve creative dreams.  That they (YOU) don’t have to be perfect to have a perfectly splendid life.

So, here is a little post – celebrating my imperfections…… all the things that bug me about ME, when I look at other people who are doing this helping-other-people-to-awesomeness thing.  I’m going to don my tiara and be the Empress of Imperfect.  See if I don’t.

Brace yourself.

I don’t meditate every day.  I meditate sometimes, but the thought of doing it every morning at the same time, or even every day, just doesn’t … it just doesn’t happen.

Ditto running.  And yoga.

I get stressed and shout at computers, a LOT.

I live in a perfectly ordinary sized, non-mansiony, rather quirky, very messy house.  The bathroom gets cleaned only when I can stand it no longer.  The living room is half filled with parrot toys and there is usually bird poop on the floor.  And on some of the chairs.  Sigh.

I am often late for things.  About 20 minutes is my average.

I shout at my partner for “making me late”.

Doing things at the last minute is just the way I do things.  I think I must like the adrenaline rush, or something!

I enjoy green smoothies, and other healthy tasty things to eat, and eat vegan food very often – because that’s the way I want to eat.  I also have pizza, cheese, chips and red wine quite often – sometimes at the same time.  Balance, n’est-ce pas?

I speak French badly.

I often read the last page of a novel after the first chapter because I can’t stand to not know the ending.

I have a bag of unfinished crochet projects next to my favourite chair.  The wool catches around my ankles when I stand up and the bag trails along after me, like a lost puppy.

Ditto half read books, mainly on time management and self improvement.  A big pile, by the bed.

Going to bed early.  I know I should.  I just don’t.  Even if I get there early, I hang out on Twitter for an hour. 

Hanging clothes up?  Ironing clothes?  Please!  My clothes live in little piles on the floor, chairs and some are in little colour-coded containers, which I don’t put the right colours into.  Life is too short to hang things up, honestly.  

I get cross when people blame stuff on Mercury being in retrograde.  I think uncharitable, bad thoughts about how unscientific they are, and about how clever I am not to believe such things.  This may well be caused by Mercury being in retrograde.

I want an iPad.  I can’t stop thinking about the shiny thing I want, at the same time I am ashamed to want a shiny thing because it’s awfully shallow.  But shiny.

Vampires.  I love them.  But not when they sparkle – no.

I love cats, but say sweary words when I see them in the garden around the bird feeders.  Grrrrr.

I never did learn to drive.

I used to cycle everywhere but now my poor bike lies rusting next to the house.

I don’t have a blogging planner.  So, I’ll catch you – when I catch you!

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    Confession time…. celebrating my perfect imperfection! — 23 Comments

    1. Yes Yes Yes to every single line and I love you more than before!!!! Brave and Scrumptous at the same time!!!! If you didn’t HAVE a tiara I would have to SEND you one!!!! <3 :-)

    2. i love this 🙂
      once upon a time i would buy the magazines of the ‘housy’ variety and dream of my house (actually bungalow which i like to think of as a hobbit hole or roundhouse depending on my mood) being some gorgeous spotless piece of gorgeousness…then i realised this was impossible and stopped buying the magazines that made me feel inadequate…i did that with ‘womens’ magazines years ago!
      i realised that having a fuzzy springer spaniel will mean fuzzy white hairs and dust everywhere…i hate dusting…i have the odd missed (because they are small!)ferret poop in the hall way, that the said ferrets like to tunnel under the duvet and sleep there, that i too have countless books and crochet projects around the sofa and in the bedroom, i burn incense in my craft room which smells like a bonfire (my ideal perfume!)…i do yoga but not because its ‘trendy’ but i love how it makes me feel deep down, i prefer hobbits to vampires (yes, what is it with the whole sparkly thing?!) and i long for an ipad too…i know its wrong, i have a coal fired laptop and should be grateful…but ipad…..*sigh*

      by the way the name may be misleading…i am solsticedreamer 🙂

    3. I DID like your post! It’s nice to see honesty, not only put out into the world, but about one’s self. Embrace your imperfections Jani… I think they are wonderful. I have four birds myself… so I know about the poop, LOL.

    4. I have been spending so much time on a project that my house is a mess. As long as my family is clothed and fed it is all good. All of us have imperfections, that is what makes us human.

    5. I’m so pleased I found you , via solstice dreamer…substitute 2 dogs for the parrot and this is me….made me smile on a damp wet morning in France, thank you

    6. I love this! This is so nearly me … the parrot is about, (note the ‘about’, I’ve lost count!), 8 cats and my crochet sticks out from under the bed, ready to catch me unawares. I sometimes try yoga in the shower…doesn’t work very well! I don’t need an ipad, but…….it’s shiney and shiney is good right?
      I can drive, but gave up my car and have four rusty bikes in the garden….


    7. You know Jani, I did learn to drive. About 4 years ago, because I had to and now I am slowly reverting to my bike because I dont really need to drive any more (thankfully!). I don’t like the pace of life that is demanded by the ability to drive. Mostly, I am very anti-social, that is one of my biggest imperfections (ask my sister!). I don’t like to talk small talk much and am very impatient with people who have to prattle, who want to come and see me to prattle. I’ll pass on that and go hide up the field. I have a caravan for that speshully. I am very intolerant and critical of people but largely I don’t say it out loud. I do at least believe that in general if I can’t say anything positive I should say nothing, most of the time! That’s a biggie for me as being judgmental impacts on my own creativity. 🙁 I think you are wonderfully and jollily imperfect (if jollily isn’t a word, I just invented it). I am slightly more grumpily imperfect but am mostly at peace with me and acknowledge life is a journey and I am probably carrying more baggage than I strictly need. One of the best things you have said for me is the the responsibility for creating art rests with the creator and the responsibility for judging it’s worth rests with the people looking at it or some such. I can’t find it now. I think I should make that my next project as it is very liberating for me and I am still struggling with it. Please keep on being imperfect. I am really loving having all the creative beings input into my life. Its wonderful.

    8. Loved your post! I have a patchwork quilt I’ve been making since I was 14….3 decades later its still not done. I have vowed to finish it this year!!! I spend most time drowning under my family’s clothes and I have had a warning from the council about the state of my allotment. So glad there are many imperfect perfect creative people to share with! 😉

    9. That’s such a valid lesson, right? I remember the huge shift I had when I first realised that I just had to *make* the art, not *judge* the art 🙂

    10. I love this thank you so much for sharing! I don’t know you Jani but I watch and read your posts and u inspire me. This year I promised myself I would come to a event at the art house but I’m not to confident and as a result never got there but walked past many times wanting to come in 🙁 will put it on my list of to do’s for next year.

    11. This is brilliant, thank you so much! I am always late too..have been since I first started school about 5 years old! And messy. I have 2 cats, 2 kids and don’t own my own house or have a car – I borrowed a bike but it’s in the hall with a flat tyre. Oh well, I get to walk everywhere and that’s good for me. One of the best things I learnt from my coaching course (that I never finished by the way! but I still coach people and they never complain that I don’t have a ‘qualification’!) is that ‘you don’t have to have a perfect life to be a coach’. It is so important to not let these things hold us back I think. People really want our skills as creative guides and inspiration, who are we to deny them?! I am not sure where I am at with the making art/judging art thing..bit confused, as I love to make things and am willing to share them but when it comes to asking for money for them then it feels different and I become very critical of my work as I think others will judge it even more harshly than I do – but this is not what seems to happen, they seem to love it and not notice the ‘imperfections’! And I am told to charge more for what I make. This is all in the baby stages though as I haven’t yet seriously tried to sell anything – maybe I’ll do a test and set up a stall and see what happens?! Could you explain a bit more about the making vs. judging thing? Thank you. And thank you for being you and sharing of yourself so honestly and amusingly. xx

    12. The making vs judging simply means that you have to let go of your creations enough to let other people know if they are ‘good’ or not. It doesn’t mean you can’t critique your work in a ‘how can I improve it’ way, but it separates ego from the process…. if possible!

    13. Thanks dear Mimi and please do come in! Many people take a while to work up the courage (it’s not easy to come into a new space, is it) but once you are in, you’ll be so glad you came. If you need excuses you can: browse the secondhand clothes, look at the crafts and art, or even stay for a cuppa – and don’t forget we have lots of workshops going on, too.

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    15. Jani, everything you wrote is so true, powerful, vivid alive and I do see myself in many things you wrote, thank you to share this, you are lovely and true, I’d love to meet you personally one day and hugggg you, if I ever have the chance to come to England again. I love imperfection, and that’s how my life is, is fascinating, never a same day!!! Lot’s of projects I started and still not finished…..I take my time, … I do love gardening and be surrounded by my kids,cats,dogs, birds, insects, life. Please don’t ever change you are perfect just the way you are <3